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Wegens privé-omstandigheden ben ik momenteel niet beschikbaar. Ik verwacht mijn agenda weer te openen rond half januari 2025. Als je hierover geïnformeerd wenst te worden, laat dan een bericht voor me achter.
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Nanou Anne · May 21, 2022 at 11:20 am
– What makes a thought shameful?
I feel uncomfortable other people finding out / it does not align with my upbringing
– What are you doing to avoid shameful thoughts to come up?
Live very fast or very asleep
– What do you do when shameful thoughts have arisen?
I pretend not to have seen them / I control them with inner criticism / I analyse in order to make them not come up again / I use strategies (acting as victim or perpetrator)
– What emotions/feelings are accompanying shameful thoughts?
Fear, anger, despair
– What do you fear would happen if you didn’t fight the shameful thought?
They would gain more power / I might act upon them / I might be labelled according to these thoughts
– What are the consequences of pushing the thought away, or hiding the thought? Is it working?
It feels like it is working at first, but then the cost is living hidden and in control.
marijketops · May 21, 2022 at 8:30 pm
– What makes a thought shameful?
That I’ll be banned when people find out (or at least that’s my fear) / When I believe that those people don’t have certain thoughts / I feel like a bad person
– What are you doing to avoid shameful thoughts to come up?
I seek distraction, I avoid situations that could trigger those thoughts, I live unaware
– What do you do when shameful thoughts have arisen?
I tell myself to act normal / I blame and shame myself / devil-angel conversation
– What emotions/feelings are accompanying shameful thoughts?
Frustration, disappointment (in myself), hopelessness, loneliness, guild, sadness
– What do you fear would happen if you didn’t fight the shameful thought?
That I would act upon it, that I become a weird person
– What are the consequences of pushing the thought away, or hiding the thought? Is it working?
The consequences are that I feel miserable and dirty. I feel a heavy weight on my shoulders. Pushing the thought away or hiding it, hasn’t been working for the thought not to come back again. I notice that I spend more time thinking about the thought than that the thought itself lasts. I’m giving it quite some attention actually… And it keeps coming back until now.