I felt fear about offending participants in this eCourse . . . and could be emotionally excluded. I felt also fear about possible hurting or scaring others in the group. Like I should just choose thoughts that no one in this group can take personally.
Belief: “it would be better to choose thoughts that no-one could take personally.”
TA: “It would be better to choose thoughts all of you could take personally”
– we are here to learn and see what triggers us – or not. And do TW.
– It’s not my responsibility how you respond
– I would learn little in this course if I censor myself
– I’ve no clue what you need/want/like to experience
– I’m no God who runs the show
For 20 years I’ve been tiptoing around my daughter who is on the autism spectrum and got easily tantrum if she misunderstood something. I can get so controlling that I ask people in forehead to not mention this or that that might upset others!
I can relate to that! Why is it so hard to let others have their response. I want to keep most things to myself so not to elicit a response from another. I love your turn arounds. Thank you for sharing!
I love that you worked with this belief, Helga. And, I read another belief: “I can offend people” (and it’s probably related to another belief: “People can offend me”)
I notice I want to eat while I do this work!
When rating my thoughts I noticed categories. There were the WORST ones. Once I “weeded” those out, there was the next worse and so on.
Beliefs came up about there isn’t enough time left in this life to deal with all this CRAP. I noticed the not allowing of those situations and what’s the point , they already WERE, already happened and I’m still fighting it in my mind.
The fear of judgements or misunderstandings of others if thoughts/situations are revealed, like I can somehow control what others think and perceive about me. I can’t even control my side of the equasion. This is madness we seem to relate to as normal.
It’s madness indeed! Good noticing :-))
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